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After-Conflict Repair: A 3-Step Reset in 3 Minutes

A lightweight repair script families use to close the loop after arguments and restore safety quickly.

Mom&Dad Tracker Team

2025-09-02 · 4 min read

Why repair matters

Arguments happen. What predicts resilience is not avoiding conflict, but repairing quickly so trust and learning continue.

The 3 steps

1) Name your part ("I raised my voice"). 2) Name their feeling ("That felt unfair"). 3) Name a next time ("I'll pause and try again").

30-second version

'I'm sorry for my tone. That felt rough. Next time I'll pause first.' Then a side-hug or water break if they want it.

Make it a habit

Track 'repair' moments in Mom&Dad Tracker. You'll see faster mood recovery and shorter conflicts over time.