Why roles beat reminders
A defined role gives ownership and reduces nagging. Kids enjoy being 'the helper' more than being told to help.
How to set it up
Create a simple rota. Helper sets the table, chooses music, and reads the recipe steps. Keep tasks age‑appropriate and playful.
Talk time built‑in
While you chop, ask one open question and one reflection. Track the helper nights in Mom&Dad Tracker and celebrate milestones.
In two weeks
Families report fewer chore battles, more initiative, and kids asking to host 'their helper night'.