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After-Conflict Repair: A 3-Step Reset in 3 Minutes
A lightweight repair script families use to close the loop after arguments and restore safety quickly.
Mom&Dad Tracker Team
September 2, 2025 · 4 min read
Why repair matters
Arguments happen. What predicts resilience is not avoiding conflict, but repairing quickly so trust and learning continue.
The 3 steps
1) Name your part ("I raised my voice"). 2) Name their feeling ("That felt unfair"). 3) Name a next time ("I'll pause and try again").
30-second version
'I'm sorry for my tone. That felt rough. Next time I'll pause first.' Then a side-hug or water break if they want it.
Make it a habit
Track 'repair' moments in Mom&Dad Tracker. You'll see faster mood recovery and shorter conflicts over time.