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When–Then Routine: Clear Steps, Less Pushback

A simple rule: WHEN (required) is done, THEN (preferred) happens. Predictable, fair, and calm.

Mom&Dad Tracker Team

July 3, 2025 · 4 min read

Why it works

It removes negotiations and clarifies sequence. Kids learn cause→effect without lectures.

Examples

WHEN teeth are brushed, THEN we read. WHEN toys are in the bin, THEN the playlist starts. WHEN homework is checked, THEN screens.

Keep tone warm

Say it once and point to a visual. Track 'when–then' wins in Mom&Dad Tracker to see compliance grow.

Set your first When–Then

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